Unconditionally Welcomed

Let’s do a little visioning. Think about a time when you or someone you know really well was the guest of honor at a function or event. A time when the “red carpet” was rolled out for you and you knew, beyond the shadow of a doubt, that the folk who invited you really respected, admired and loved you. Got it? For those of you who have never had that experience, try to imagine what you would feel like.

Step 1: Take a moment and write down your feelings about yourself and your feelings about the person or people who rolled out the red carpet for you when you felt you were expected, welcomed and highly respected, valued and appreciated.

Step 2: Next, write down the list of things they said and did (or what you wish they had done) that helped you feel Unconditionally Welcomed.

Here’s what The Lords of the Akashic Records told me each family member should do and say to every other family member so they would experience being Unconditionally Welcomed. Use this list to complement the one you have just developed in Step 2, above.

Each family member should let ever other family member know through their words and actions that:
1. Your being in this family is a joy. I count it a privilege to have you here. You are one of us and we are one with you. You are one with me and I am one with you.
2. You are not an accident. Whatever the circumstances of you conception and birth, you are Unconditionally Welcomed.
3. There’s a special place in my heart, in my home and at my table that is set for you and you alone. And while I love every other member of the family. I love no one else like I love you. You are welcome, unconditionally. I, nor the family would be the same if you were not here or if you were different. You are welcome, unconditionally, just the way you are.
4. When we agree with one another and see eye-to-eye and when we do not, I will celebrate the privilege of knowing and loving you. Thank you for coming into this family so that I can enjoy knowing and being with you, sharing experiences that are exciting, scary, happy or sad. Each experience is more exciting and I am happier because I can share it with you. My fears and sadness are lighter because of you. And I am here to return those gifts to you.
5. There may be a time when one of us chooses to be away from the other. If that happens, know with certainty that your place with me and with the family is protected and reserved, just for you. You are and will always be Unconditionally Welcomed.

Are there situations that preclude you from feeling, believing and communicating Unconditional Welcome to any of your family members? Can you let them know they are always welcome in your heart while not being welcome in your home – for safety reasons, etc.? How can you let them know those two realities co-exist? How will it help them? How will it help you? How will it help your family to let them know it? What would you want them to do if the roles and situations were reversed and you were the one who is on the outside looking in?

These are serious questions, folks. So many people are excluded from their families. They have no one and nowhere to turn to, no one to trust completely, no safe haven for protection of their hearts. Many people feel they are intruding, visiting, roaming – that they don’t have a landing place, a safe haven, a home. Home is not a building – that’s a house. Home. What is it? It is the state of emotional as well as physical safety.

LIFEWORK:
Time to make a continuum again. This one is titled, “Unconditionally Welcomed.”
Create a scale of 0 to ten with 0 = I have to work to even look at you!, 5 = You are welcome, conditionally and 10 = You are Unconditionally Welcomed.

Now, plot the names of your family members on the continuum. Now look at the list you developed in Step 2 above and the list shared by The Lords of The Records. When you look at these behaviors, which do you give to those family members plotted as 8-10? How about 5-7? 1-4?

Think about how it impacts you when you know you are Unconditionally Welcomed. How has it impacted you – who you are and what you do? What do you want your family members to experience?

Reach out to at least 2 family members over the next couple of days. Let them know they are Unconditionally Welcomed in your heart, your home and life. And if anyone is not, revisit the things you identified in the Unconditionally Loved message. Begin there so that you can build a relationship of love and trust that will lead to your being able to say, “You are Unconditionally Welcomed.”

Thank you for checking in. You are Unconditionally Welcomed!